Time Spent:Quality vs. Quantity

 

 

3 months into motherhood I have come to a daunting crossroads of Quality vs. Quantity with everything in my life: time with my husband, time with my baby girl, time with family, time with friends, time with my hobbies, time working out, literally every aspect of my life has been affected since I became a mother.

Time With Husband: Since becoming parents my husband and I have changed greatly. We have learned that our hearts could grow and fill with this amazing amount of love for our child. We have also learned that 5 of hours of sleep is plenty to function on and finally we have learned that our relationship has changed in both good and not so good ways. I don’t want to sound all doom and gloom because becoming parents has strengthened out relationship in many areas but I will admit that I can’t do some of the things that I used to do before we were parents with my husband. For example hearing about my husbands day at work is second fiddle now to our daughters stats for the day, the bills that came in the mail, and things that need to be done around the home. With this being said in recent weeks I have learned that instead of doing 10 things at a time if I take my attention, focus on ONE thing at a time I can accomplish the end goal much faster and efficient. QUALITY

Time With My Child: I am blessed to be a stay at home mother and I cherish it. I didn’t know if I would be able to do this so the opportunity is wonderful but there are times when I am racing around the house trying to do laundry, get something out of the freezer ready for dinner, and answer the phone when I wonder if I am a good mother or not. On days that I spend doing errands and grocery shop is that a QUALITY day of time for my child and I? In all reality I can’t spend every waking hour cuddling, snuggling and cooing over my baby and I have come to accept that there are plenty of moments throughout the everyday life to fill with love, affection and Quality time with my daughter.

Time for Myself: AHHH I laughed out loud when I was writing this out loud because ME time is far and few between. I have seen a change though in the past few weeks as I pondered the debate of Quality vs. quantity though and that is I need just a little bit of ME time every once in awhile. I am gaining a great deal of happiness from the precious time at night with my husband, and the sweet moments of everyday life with daughter that  a few minutes at night to read a book, or walk with a friend during the week can recharge me in a wonderful way.

In reflection it is my belief that women must find their own balance of  Quality vs. quantity, and that the quality time often out ways the quality aspect.

What are your thoughts/struggles/success with balancing life as a mom?

7 Responses to Time Spent:Quality vs. Quantity

  1. Marie January 26, 2012 at 5:01 pm #

    Great post! This is a great reminder that as parents, we aren’t always able to fit in the ‘quantity’ of time with spouses, friends and family that we would like, so it’s important that the time we do get is ‘quality’ time. I agree that ‘me’ time is very important and it doesn’t have to be big plans to help you recharge – sometimes just a trip to Target by myself can feel like I had a trip to the spa!

    • Erin January 29, 2012 at 10:44 pm #

      Ahhhhh target a must need every so often for ME time!

  2. Ellie S. January 28, 2012 at 2:02 am #

    My recent struggle is “busy-ness”. I just started working out 3 mornings a week & I have bible study on a fourth day. That leaves just one day (work week day) for SG & I to just chill…and I’m thinking about going back to story time which would mean an activity every day. I’m trying to figure out if I’m becoming too busy and missing the little moments with SG. I don’t think I am. She seems to enjoy the busyness. You should see that child at Target- it’s like Disney World to her!!! Anyway, I think it’s all about balance!

    I definitely feel like I get good quality time with the Huzz since SG goes to sleep pretty early (7-8 pm). We have all night to talk (okay, let me be honest…watch tv!).

    When I need me time, I just tell the Huzz and he takes over so I can get away. But I don’t need it as much because I find spending time with friends during the week helps so much!

    Great post, Erin!

    • Erin January 29, 2012 at 10:46 pm #

      Yes the balance of activities to just staying at home and being is an important one that we as mothers must figure out!

  3. Rachel January 28, 2012 at 11:00 am #

    I am totally with you, Erin. It is shocking to me how I can spend all day with my son and still feel like I didn’t spend enough time WITH him. I know that he is not going to be scarred by the fact that on some days I am more focused on getting groceries or cleaning the bathrooms, but I have tried to balance those activities with some real QUALITY time with him. So, yes, I have to clean the house and make dinner, but I also make time to read books and sing and talk to my son.

    • Erin January 29, 2012 at 10:47 pm #

      Thanks Rachel for the reasurnce that I am not alone!

    • Ellie S. February 1, 2012 at 2:03 am #

      Rachel I love how you worded that because I feel the same way!

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