3 months into motherhood I have come to a daunting crossroads of Quality vs. Quantity with everything in my life: time with my husband, time with my baby girl, time with family, time with friends, time with my hobbies, time working out, literally every aspect of my life has been affected since I became a mother.
Time With Husband: Since becoming parents my husband and I have changed greatly. We have learned that our hearts could grow and fill with this amazing amount of love for our child. We have also learned that 5 of hours of sleep is plenty to function on and finally we have learned that our relationship has changed in both good and not so good ways. I don’t want to sound all doom and gloom because becoming parents has strengthened out relationship in many areas but I will admit that I can’t do some of the things that I used to do before we were parents with my husband. For example hearing about my husbands day at work is second fiddle now to our daughters stats for the day, the bills that came in the mail, and things that need to be done around the home. With this being said in recent weeks I have learned that instead of doing 10 things at a time if I take my attention, focus on ONE thing at a time I can accomplish the end goal much faster and efficient. QUALITY
Time With My Child: I am blessed to be a stay at home mother and I cherish it. I didn’t know if I would be able to do this so the opportunity is wonderful but there are times when I am racing around the house trying to do laundry, get something out of the freezer ready for dinner, and answer the phone when I wonder if I am a good mother or not. On days that I spend doing errands and grocery shop is that a QUALITY day of time for my child and I? In all reality I can’t spend every waking hour cuddling, snuggling and cooing over my baby and I have come to accept that there are plenty of moments throughout the everyday life to fill with love, affection and Quality time with my daughter.
Time for Myself: AHHH I laughed out loud when I was writing this out loud because ME time is far and few between. I have seen a change though in the past few weeks as I pondered the debate of Quality vs. quantity though and that is I need just a little bit of ME time every once in awhile. I am gaining a great deal of happiness from the precious time at night with my husband, and the sweet moments of everyday life with daughter that a few minutes at night to read a book, or walk with a friend during the week can recharge me in a wonderful way.
In reflection it is my belief that women must find their own balance of Quality vs. quantity, and that the quality time often out ways the quality aspect.
What are your thoughts/struggles/success with balancing life as a mom?