I’ve recently hit a short season of life – the guilty season. It seems many of the life choices or situations that have occurred recently have come with some sort of guilt attached. As I started to dwell more and more on these situations I started to realize I needed a new perspective in some areas of my life. So I’m sharing some of the “guilts” that have consumed me lately and choosing to see a change of perspective.
1. Feeling guilty about being sick – This past week I was struck with a HORRIFIC cold. Headache, cough, sore throat, the whole works. It took everything I had just to make it through 5 hours of work a day. I would come home and pass out on the couch or in bed the rest of the night.
Change of Perspective: I have been blessed with a husband who allows me to rest when sick and takes amazing care of the kids. The kids enjoyed nightly bike rides, trips to the park, hours of play in the backyard digging for bugs and dinner cooked by daddy. They were fine, I was able to rest and they love spending with their daddy. It’s okay to take the time to recover if possible.
Change of Perspective: The reality is I am running to be healthy. Physically healthy and mentally healthy. Running has changed my moods and has helped clear my thoughts at times, helping me return home refreshed and recharged. I ran my best ever 5K and felt a new sense of pride in what my body can do. My husband and I have also always wanted to encourage an active lifestyle for our kids, but that means it has to start with us.
3. Feeling guilty about working – I work part-time as a Career Counselor. However, that means because of schedules we can’t make play dates, I’m not always there to take the kids to school, we have babysitters and sometimes I get the “working mom” glare (the one that says I should be staying home, when I complain about these things).
Change of Perspective: I love to work, if you know me, you have probably heard me say that. I am good at what I do (or at least I think I am), I LOVE working, serving students and I choose to work. My kids get a weekly day with each of their grandmas which they love and we set up play dates when we can with other moms.
This is just a short list of some of the things that have consumed me lately. The point is we all have some sort of guilt when it comes to parenting. I will never be the perfect mom and I will not always get it right. But what I have come to realize over the past week is I am doing the best I can with the cards I’m dealt. I love my kids unconditionally, the decisions and choices I make are always done with our families best intentions in mind. So today I will choose to have a change of perspective. I will choose not to focus on the guilt that will weigh me down, but on the joy that our family experiences. What mom guilt do you need to change perspectives on?