Do you ever feel like you are the only one going through a difficult season? Do the days/weeks/months of hardship tend to become so overwhelming you feel as though it will never end? Being a mom, we don’t get a reprieve from the stress, and situations are what they are. I was feeling particularly overwhelmed the other day and when venting to a friend I asked her to tell me it was going to be okay. I just needed to hear that some part of this madness is normal. That everyone goes through this or something like this at some point in life. I needed to hear 4 simple words:
You are not alone.
I just need to know that..
- the laundry pile never ends for them either..
- their van is dirty too..
- they yell at their kids too
- Little Caesar’s is a perfectly healthy meal
- yoga pants are perfectly acceptable in every occasion
- their dishes pile up like mine do…
- their kids listen to them only when it involves ice cream or Chuck E. Cheese…
- they feel like a failure as a wife, mom and friend (sometimes daily)
- you aren’t a horrible parent if you occasionally don’t like your kid(toddlers & teenagers-just sayin’)
- they have sat and watched the Backyardagains “with the kids”
- their carpet is stained as bad as mine is
- perfect bodies don’t exist
- tough situations don’t last forever
- they also google homework math problems because they don’t know how to do it either
- they eat ice cream for dinner at the end of a hard day
- they also crave having a half hour of quiet and no one hanging on your arm
- fully cooked meals at 6pm every night is a 50’s era fantasy
- they have piles of papers, coupons, lone socks and know exactly whats in each pile
I just need to know at the end of the day that I’m enough. Even more than enough, I’m doing a good job if all I accomplished in a day was giving my children food, water and shelter. There are days as a mom I feel like I’ve got it all together and content with life, and there’s the complete opposite where I want to pack my bags and run away. Can I say, coming from a mom who rarely has it all together…its okay to say and show that you don’t have it all together. It’s okay to let someone know your weak spots. I’ve found that when I let others in, there is so much that can be shared and learned from one another. I guarantee you, many others have been there and have words have wisdom to share or a shoulder to cry on. From my heart to yours, mom, you are not alone.
What do you need to hear today, mom?
What can you add to this list?