Whoever thought of that term was never pregnant.
I call it all-day-suck-the-life-out-of-me-sickness.
That’s right. Starting at 6 weeks, I have been throwing up, dry heaving and feeling nauseous ALL.DAY.LONG. I am 14 weeks now and everyone keeps telling me it’s going to end soon. I will say it’s getting better, but I can’t wait for the day I can say it’s gone.
Let me telling what dealing with this all day sickness for the last 8 weeks (yes, that’s 2 full months) has taught me:
- It really does take a village –
Being sick from the moment I wake up until the second I fall asleep has caused some major hiccups in our routine. I have had to rely heavily on my husband (who is already amazing) to be the primary caregiver in many instances, because I truly could not function. I carried a bucket in my car for the trips from home to work or dropping the kids off at school. I was even guilty of putting my kid in someone else’s car in the drop off lane so I could rush off to a bathroom. I am so thankful for all those who stepped up around me and encouraged me along the way.
- Find what sounds good and go with it –
When friends (and even strangers) found out how sick I was the advice began flowing. Ginger, apples, French fries, soda, fruit, veggies, bread, crackers…you name it and they offered it. I am so thankful for people sharing their stories because it helps us remember we are not alone, but also remember you have to find what works for you. For me it has been vegetables, particularly cherry tomatoes and baby cucumbers, ginger ale and pickles (I totally feel like a stereotypical pregnant lady). This however, is what is working for me currently and therefore, I’m sticking with it, but try things out and find what works for you.
- Don’t be afraid to be your own advocate –
I called the midwives more than once asking for assistance and relief. I also did a lot of research and knew that there were certain meds I was not comfortable taking. When offered certain meds, I pushed back, asked questions and requested other options. The midwives have been amazing and I was reminded that I am in charge of my body and what I put in it. In the end we settled on a medication that has helped TREMENDOUSLY and also using essentials oils to combat the nausea when I can. This has helped me feel empowered, in the midst of feeling completely helpless.
- Realize this is a phase –
I will tell you, I HATE WHEN PEOPLE SAY THIS. However, I also know it’s true. Because whether the sickness last 9 months (like it did with my daughter) or 12 weeks (like it did with my son) at some point it will end. It may not be at the end of the 1st trimester, like everyone says, but someday “soon” it will end and the reward will be great.
- Give yourself grace –
In the midst of being sick, it is probably that you will not be able to maintain supermom status. This will have to wait, you will go to bed early and nap when you should be cleaning. You will put off being romantic with your spouse and you may even become short with the kids. Give yourself grace. Growing a baby is hard work. Ask for forgiveness and remember tomorrow is always a new day with fresh beginnings.
- It’s okay to complain –
I remember someone once asking me how I was feeling and I responded with “okay…” She looked at me and reminded me that I had wanted this for a long time and I should be happy about it. Let me tell you. I have prayed for this baby for the past 2.5 years, waiting and hoping that it would come to be, but it sucks staring into the bowl of the toilet upon waking, throughout the day and right before you fall asleep. I am so thankful for the gift of being able to carry a baby and believe me, I know how blessed I am. I even go as far as to remind myself that being sick is a good indicator that your body is doing something it’s suppose to, but good golly, sometimes I just need to complain before I pick myself up and move on.
Hoping the next time you hear from me, I will be on the road to feeling good. Until then, make sure you give that mama that’s struggling a little encouragement, I bet she could use it!
What was your secret weapon for fighting off the morning (all day) sickness?