It was just an ordinary day with a not so ordinary comment.
You ever have those? They stop you in your tracks and leave you speechless and your brain running 100 miles an hour?
We had just left an event, my phone was dead(story of my life) and one kid desperately needed to use the bathroom(the story of every mom’s life.) My husband and I had driven separately, meeting up after work and so I loaded the troop in my van waved my goodbyes and headed towards home with one thought in mind.
Mission: Get to the bathroom as quickly as possible
I suddenly see his headlights chasing after me and he comes along side the van with the not so universal motion anymore of roll your window down. (Once upon a time you had to literally..roll the window down..using a handle. No buttons-my kids still think that’s weird) So we drive next to each and he yells out if we all want ice cream. I side eye him because I’m on my “Mom Mission” and also trying to drive home in one piece. We decide on Frosty’s, cause that’s easy and I’d like to stop shouting across the road at one another.
I roll up the window(using the button) and in the quiet, my oldest and most apathetic daughter, says:
That comment caught me good. I was so caught up in my mission, my exhaustion, my not wanting to be interrupted while driving that I had missed the point. Sometimes its so easy to be surrounded by the chaos and busyness of life that I forget my children are watching and listening. My marriage isn’t perfect. My parenting isn’t perfect. But in that moment, as the tears welled I realized every moment matters. Good, bad, and everything in between they need to see what a relationship looks like as we work and walk through life. Take nothing for granted, love big and appreciate what you have.