Labor and delivery can be intimidating.
In addition to actually BIRTHING A HUMAN, there are plenty of things moms worry about. That’s why we loved this post by Anna, a local momma and labor nurse. She’s here to put your mind at ease – she’s not judging you.
So if you’ve ever worried about labor, here are things your labor nurse wants you to know – because she won’t be judging you. (We’re sharing a selection of this post here. If you want more where this came from, check out her blog MOMMY LABOR NURSE.)
Before becoming a labor nurse, I remember worrying a lot about whether what I did was normal or not when delivering my children. I was nervous about being judged by the nurses and physicians taking care of me. I didn’t want to be that “weird” patient.
By my third delivery, I knew that I wasn’t being judged by my choices. As healthcare providers, we see a lot of crazy things – a little poop isn’t going to phase us.
As a labor nurse, I want you to know that I promise I will not judge you.
My job as a nurse is to take care of you and your baby in the safest way possible. We are going to pay more attention to your baby’s heart rate on the monitor than to the spot you missed shaving your legs that morning.
Honestly, I’m not just saying that! You would have to do something pretty far out there for us to bat an eye. These are the most common things that I’ve seen moms worry about – and I don’t want you to worry about them on your big day.
1. Shaving: I tell you what, it is hard to shave those legs when you have a big baby belly and can barely reach them. We don’t care if you don’t have perfectly smooth legs. We probably won’t even notice! Speaking of shaving, grooming down there is another thing we won’t criticize you for. Shave it all, some or none – we really don’t care.
2. Getting an epidural: Pain management is your choice. If you are adamant that you are not going to get an epidural, and then change your mind, that is fine by me. If you come in knowing you want an epidural and get it early on, that’s up to you as well. I won’t think you’re a wuss.
3. Not getting an epidural: If you want to go pain medicine-free, good for you! I will support you and do my best to make that possible. I won’t doubt you or make you feel like you can’t do it, because you can!
4. Being emotional: Pregnancy makes your hormones crazy. Labor makes your hormones crazy. Delivering the baby makes your hormones crazy. I get it. Cry if you need to cry. Laugh if you need to laugh. Do both at the same time if you feel like it. I promise that I’ll understand and not judge you for how you’re feeling.
5. Dropping some four-letter words: Labor hurts. It’s hard to control that pain and what comes out of your mouth when you’re feeling that pain. I will not judge you if you do a little cursing or have a potty mouth during labor. It happens to the best of us.
6. Not being married: I usually don’t even know if you’re married or not. As long as you love and care for that child, your marital status is none of my business!
7. Asking questions: I feel like I get a lot of moms that apologize for asking so many questions. Seriously, don’t apologize for that! It’s so much better to know and understand what is going on than to sit there and wonder about it. Please, ask away!
8. Pooping while pushing: It happens. It usually means you’re pushing in the right spot. Don’t worry about it or be embarrassed. Usually, we’ll have you all cleaned up before you even know it happened.
This is just the start of the list of what I don’t judge you for. (Check out all 12 on MOMMY LABOR NURSE.)
Enjoy the birth of your child and don’t sweat the small stuff. Healthcare providers are there to help you, not judge you. I promise, we’ve seen it all and not a whole lot phases us!
If you’re not sure if something is normal or not, ask and we’ll be happy to reassure you.
Childbirth is also amazing and life-changing. While you’re laboring, think about the beauty in what you’re doing and the amazing life you are creating.
Those sweet babies are so worth the pooping, pain and awkward body fluids.
About the author:
Anna has been a labor and delivery nurse for four years, and is passionate about women knowing their options and choices during labor. She’s also a momma and knows how intimidating labor can be. She started her blog MommyLaborNurse.com to help ease the minds of both new and seasoned moms. Her goal is to help moms achieve the labor they want!